Relationship Counselling

Navigating Trauma in Relationship Counselling

Couples therapy, also known as relationship counselling, is a specialized form of therapy designed for couples to improve their relationship and resolve conflicts. When trauma is a part of one or both partners' histories, it can significantly influence the dynamics of the partnership.

The Therapeutic Process

Assessment and Goal Setting

In initial sessions, the therapist conducts a comprehensive assessment of the couple's history, individual experiences, and specific concerns.

Assignments and Practice

Exercises and activities for couples will be assigned between sessions. The assignments reinforce learning and promote active engagement in the therapeutic process.

Regular Check-Ins and Adjustments

Ongoing communication with the therapist ensures that progress is tracked, and any necessary adjustments to the treatment plan can be made.

Couples Therapy with the Gottman Method

Developed by Drs. John and Julie Gottman, the Gottman Method is based on extensive research and observational studies of couples. It emphasizes the importance of understanding the dynamics of successful relationships and provides practical tools for fostering healthy, lasting connections.

It is grounded in extensive research on what makes relationships successful and focuses on practical techniques to improve communication, resolve conflicts, and strengthen emotional connections. The core principles of Gottman therapy are:

Sound Relationship House Theory

Identifies seven components that form the foundation of a healthy and lasting relationship

Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse

These are negative communication patterns that, if left unaddressed, can lead to relationship distress or breakdown

Maintaining a Positive Sentiment Override

This involves having a positive outlook and interpreting ambiguous situations in a positive light, even during challenging times.

Repair and De-Escalation Techniques

These techniques aim to bring partners back to a place of connection and understanding

Acceptance of Influence

Emphasizes the importance of being open to your partner's input and considering their perspective, even when there are differences of opinion.

Creating Shared Rituals and Meaning

Establishing and maintaining special traditions, rituals, and shared experiences can deepen the emotional connection and sense of togetherness.

"69% of problems in a relationship are unsolvable" (Dr. John Gottman)

Couples therapy utilizing the Gottman Method, when approached with sensitivity to trauma, offers a robust framework for couples to heal, grow, and reestablish a deep and lasting connection. If you or your partner have experienced trauma and it's impacting your relationship, seeking professional support through this evidence-based approach can be a significant step towards mutual healing and the development of a resilient partnership.

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